Free to be me; Fighting Insecurity

 People say that college is when you find yourself and discover who you are. Well for me, in the first few months of college I discovered one thing: I had insecurities.
Home was comfort, all I knew. Now leaving home and finding myself in a place out of my comfort zone I discovered I was insecure.

When you step out of your comfort zone, you discover what areas need growth.


Now let me tell you, where I go to college there are amazing, talented, beautiful, Jesus loving people and I am so privileged to call some of them my friends. But once I got there, all of a sudden I began to question myself.
I would think,
“Am I good enough? Do I have a good enough story? Is my calling great? Am I wearing the right clothes? Should I change my hair? Am I being social enough? Do I have enough friends?”
I’d also think things like,
“I used to think I could sing well but now… I don’t think I can sing well enough. I was a leader in church back home but… I’m not qualified enough to lead here.”
 Lies. These were all lies but I was feeding into them.
All these things would run through my mind constantly.
Because I had forgotten 3 things.
1. I forgot that comparing ourselves to others is not a wise thing to do.

“We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves to themselves, they are not wise.

2 Corinthians 10:12

The person God made you and me to be, no one else can be. So we must remember that God loves us and wants us to be completely who we are as individuals. Being who we truly are is the best version of ourselves we can be for the world. So we need to fight the temptation of comparing ourselves to other because nothing good will come from of it.

2. I forgot whose approval I was really trying to win. I had gotten so caught up in wanting to be known by other people.


“Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to serve men, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Galatians 1:10

We should receive complete satisfaction in the fact that the God of the universe, knows every little detail about each and every one of us. We must seek His approval, for in the end He is the one that knows what is best for us.

3. I forgot who I was and whose I was.


“But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.”

Isaiah 43:1

We are loved and cherished by the One who created us. 

God speaks things over our lives. He gave us our personality, traits, abilities, talents, and gifts so that through all of that we could accomplish the purpose He has for us, and believe me, we all have a purpose some just take longer to discover it.
Now I’m not going to tell you that all my insecurities went away in an instance. No, but I’ve changed the way I look at them and so can you. Insecurities don’t make us or define us, but rather we choose the power we give our own insecurities.
And for me, I declare they don’t control me anymore.
God once told me,
“Whatever voices speak negativity and discouragement over you, know they are not from me, therefore they should mean NOTHING to you.” 
So I encourage you, embrace who you are. Don’t listen to the voices that speak negativity or discouragement over you but listen to the voice that speaks truth over you, God’s.
God knows everything about you, the good and the bad and yet He still absolutely adores you, just the way you are so why don’t you?
XO, Raquel

We Want to Hear From You!

What insecurities have you allowed to control you for too long?
What Bible verses can you use to combat the lies of the enemy?
What is God speaking over you?

5 thoughts on “Free to be me; Fighting Insecurity

  1. I love how you tell your story and how you base your growth on the Word of God. Dealing with insecurities through the power of the Word of God is a sign of maturity. This is a message for young and old as we all deal with insecurities in life. Well done!

  2. Joaquin,
    Thank you so much for this comment! So much encouragement and wisdom! We are so blessed to have women like Raquel on our To Be Loved Blog team! Stay tuned for more post by her and be sure to check out our most recent post!

  3. Wowwwwwww! These words came directly from God's heart. The way you freely talk about your insecurities is the evidence that Jesus is changing you from the inside out. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You're such a genuine and honest writer. Keep it up! God bless you sweet Raquel.
    Claudia <3

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