Free to be Secure

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Hi my name is Chantel Munsey. I am 23 years old. And I am overcoming insecurity. 
My life up to this point has been a pretty wild ride. When I was 9 years old I was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer and prescribed 3 weeks to live. Long story short I lost all of my hair and gained about 75 pounds while simultaneously fighting for my life.
 
In less than a year of being diagnosed and treated I was completely healed, but due to the circumstances I still felt like I was living the life of a patient; not a person. As if you aren’t already struggling as an adolescent to find identity—try being the fat, bald, terminally ill kid on the block. Constantly having people mistake me for a boy, and not being able to get my weight under control made things even worse.
 
I had no understanding of my value, and self worth was non-existent. For the next few years I continued to struggle with these insecurities, which led to extreme depression. I started to really second guess why God ever thought healing me was a good idea in the first place.
 
I tricked myself into believing that God made a mistake keeping me alive.
I started acting on the impulses of self-harm, until they became full on attempts of suicide. After hospitalization and therapy I bounced back. It was then that I found a brand new way to cope with insecurity. Theater.
 
I had no identity of my own, but I could put on any costume, any mask, and become whoever I wanted to be—even the people I could never be in real life. Thus all the world became my stage. I unintentionally started to believe that God’s love for me was contingent based on my performance….
 
Fast forward to bible school where I was surrounded by the word of God, fervently seeking after Him. I started to implement daily affirmations and scripture in my life.
 

By understanding who God was, it started to be clearer to me who I was.

 
I began to find my identity in Him. By identifying with him I started to adopt some of His characteristics—like kindness, grace, forgiveness, love. Doing those things helped me establish a holy confidence that I am able to walk in for the rest of my life.
 
I know who I am in Christ and I know He has a plan for me; a hope and a future. But it’s not all easy now…. it’s a constant battle.
 
For me, overcoming insecurity looks like small steps at a time.
 

First and foremost it looks like being in the word of God.

How will you ever know whom God says you are if you don’t read his word and surround yourself with his promises?  Apart from God I don’t know who I am. Neither can you.
 

Second, daily affirmations and declarative statements are literally life changing.

Speak the life you want into existence. Say your affirmations OUT LOUD. Start thanking God for everything you have.  Cultivate an attitude of gratitude in all things. Watch your joy set a blaze.
 

Lastly, get around people that will challenge you to be the best you that you can possibly be.

Challenge each other in love. Let’s be people that call out the beauty in others. Let’s remind people how amazing they are.
 

Recognizing someone else’s value doesn’t remove or reduce your value. In fact, I believe the ability to recognize the beauty in others makes you even more attractive.

 
Another recent step for me personally was taking off my false eyelashes. Although it might seem minor, it was huge for me. I had gotten to a place where I didn’t feel confident enough to leave the house without them on—out of fear that people would think less of me if they saw me without them. I wasn’t wearing false lashes… they were wearing me. I haven’t had false lashes on in about 2 months. It’s so unbelievably freeing to relearn that I am beautiful from the inside out. No eyelashes are going to change that.
 
I am Chantel Munsey.
I am 23 years old.
I find my identity in the God that created me.
I walk in the confidence knowing my crown has been paid for in full. All I have to do is put it on my head and wear it.

I am secure.

And… I’m ready to change the world.

 

XO, Chantel

22 thoughts on “Free to be Secure

  1. Incredible writing ~ you Chantel Munsey are a AMAZING! God knew exactly what He was doing when He kept you alive and He knows exactly what He is doing today! I am sooo proud of who you have become <3 Love and hugs.

  2. What a Beautiful description of the healing power of Jesus Christ, both physically & emotionally. You have grown into an Incredible Woman of Worth! It makes my heart so Happy to see yours & Andrew's generation rising up and walking in your God Given Destiny & Purpose. Not only recognizing Who you are, but more importantly, WHOSE you are! Someday we will have to sit down and talk, so I can tell you how your experience with cancer helped change my life, all those years ago. I am so proud of you! 🙂

  3. Hi Chantel…its TAMI (Tamara LaFoe) I am a streaming member of FCC from Branson, Missouri…my sister and niece live in Munster. I pray and hope your life will inspire my two daughters Joy and Galina. Thank you for sharing….love on.

  4. AMAZING!!! You honesty and transparency is not only courageous, it will LITERALLY save a life. I'm so very proud of you, Chantel! Coming from someone who thinks she OWNS her self image, I can truly say, i admire and am inspired by your bravery and the leap of faith you are taking. Love you!��

  5. Chantel-I don't know you personally, but I attend your grandfather's church in Munster- but this is amazing! Since I became a member of FCC, Pastor Steve would always talk about you, and your miracle! I saw you a couple of times when you were in town. Anyway, this is beautiful! No one ever knew the struggles you faced on the inside, your wore this majestic, ecstatic appearance. Your blog really inspired me and gave me hope! Thanks for sharing your story, it gave me an urge on the inside to keep going. God has bigger and better plans for me! Success is in your future. Be blessed, love you!
    ~Nicole Brown❤️

  6. Wow! Thank you so much for this! Chantel is incredible and we are blessed to have her write for us! We believe that God does these beautiful things in our lives for this reason, to share with others every chance we get!

  7. Tiffeni,
    This is beautiful! Thank you so much for your response. We see God moving so much in our generation and those to come, because of the ones who laid the foundation for us! Our team appreciates this encouragement so much! Thank you! Be sure to check out our latest post and keep your eye out for more post by Chantel soon!

    Xo, To Be Loved Blog

  8. Tamara!

    Thank you so much for this! Our To Be Loved Blog team has been so blessed to have writers like Chantel. We pray that your daughters get a chance to read this, as well as stories from other writers on our page! Be sure to check out out latest post!

    Xo, To Be Loved Blog

  9. Rodina,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! Our To Be Loved Blog team feels so blessed to have amazing women like Chantel, writing for us! We too have been inspired by her bravery! Be sure to check out our latest post and keep commenting! We love you!

    Xo, To Be Loved Blog

  10. Nicole,
    This is overwhelmingly encouraging! Thank you so much for your comment! Our team is so blessed to be a platform for women, like Chantel, to share their stories! Be sure to check out our latest post and keep commenting! We love ya!

    Xo, To Be Loved Blog

  11. Thank you so much for your response! We appreciate Chantel and her willingness to be vulnerable and share her story on To Be Loved Blog! Be sure to check out our most recent post!
    Xo, To Be Loved Blog

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